I love that so many couples dare to go after love once again. Although they have children. And although it went wrong the first time. I get so happy every time I meet people who are going for it again. And again. They believe in love. Fight for love. For love makes us feel good. Once it is clean and unconditional.
I meet newly in love couples. And a few who are close to giving up their relationship, because it is too complicated and painful. The pain has been greater than the joy.
My week is a typical example of life’s contrasts. One day, I visit a newly in love couple who would like a good start with their new Fusion family. They look lovingly and gently at each other. Have room for one another. Listening. Holding hands. I enjoy what I see.
Being soft-hearted, and share what I believe is necessary in order to create cohesion in their family.
Later in the week I meet couples who are about to break up with oneanother. Where blame and defense mechanisms are fully activated. Noone listens. Noone understand. Communication is depleted. The energy is relentless. Both suffer.
They may not even notice it. Right now. For the pain is too overwhelming. It overshadows everything. I am listening. Listen a little more. With an open and loving heart. Creating cohesion between them and me. They need to feel safe in my company, so they want to open up.
I question them. I challenge them. Each of them. Their words. Their truth. Their Reality. I feel the energy change in the room. New insights reach each of them. Gradually.
And suddenly there is a hole through! My hair stands up on my arms. I get tears in my eyes. I know that now we have come to the core of what it is really all about. When ALL else is garbage.
The feeling of being able to sit back comfortably in their relationship. Without struggle. Without blame. But with deep affection feeingl safe and loved – no matter what. You will care for me, be my rock, and I will open my heart and invite you in. It is where I am at its most beautiful, most vulnerable and strongest.
I am deeply affected when the transformation occurs. Feel deeply grateful to be able to help the process getting started.
In the car, I remind myself, that I have to remember to appreciate what I have. It is not self-evident or granted. The wonderful loving family I have created with Jégwan.
I know and feel that there is a loving way and I will do my very best to to share that with others.
In the name of Love,